Good morning, Dear Reader! It’s a scorcher here in the Ozarks, and I have decided one thing: People who like the heat are not to be trusted. There’s something off about those folks. I sleep with the air conditioner set at 68*; trust me, I’d go lower if I didn’t have a tiny human to consider. He already sleeps with three blankets. Nonetheless, there will be no outdoor activities this week beyond the scope of getting through swimming lessons. I do not like sweat trickling down my back on its journey to the backside of my panties. No. Fun. At. All.
Despite the heat, and the we-aren’t-calling-it-a-recession, and gas prices, and mass school shootings, and the “bans off my body” stuff, and…oh…yeah…a global pandemic still in full force, life is okay. I mean, it isn’t OK, but so much of this can’t be controlled, so I’m going to run with it. Not gonna lie, though; sometimes it gets tricky. Don’t you agree?
So, what do I tell myself when life gets tough?
Grab a drink. Settle in.
I will share the five things I tell myself when life gets complicated, hoping it will help you, too.
So, got that drink? Good. Let’s dive right in.
1) I can overcome this challenge, and I’ll be much stronger. My fella and I were talking about how ‘laid back’ our relationship is. We just don’t argue. I think it’s because both of us have overcome so much that we are both stronger, and it shows in the calmness of our lives. I used to sweat the small stuff until I realized that most of it was small stuff, and I was creating more than my share of unnecessary stress. I’m not saying you aren’t going to suffer. I’m saying you’re not going to regret it.
2) When life is easy, life is dull. I’m not saying I want a tremendous amount of chaos in my life. I’m just saying that I like to learn, and in every experience, there is an opportunity for growth. Growth can be challenging, but it is rarely dull. And anyone who says “I don’t like drama” is a bit sus in my book. I’m not a fan of it either, but in the drama comes opportunity. Life is supposed to have a little bit of drama. If you avoid drama, you avoid growth. But just like Netflix: Every drama must have a final season. It’s in pushing through those experiences that some of the greatest epiphanies are born.
3) Life 1, Reaction 9. My son recently broke his tablet, and I could tell he was scared to show me (maybe because of that previous unnecessary drama. Shrug.) When he finally got it out and told the truth, his little eyes welled up with tears and his voice shook. I took the opportunity to remain calm. He said, “I can’t believe you aren’t angry.” to which I replied, “Oh. I am angry. I’m just choosing my words carefully.” Life is about 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. (And my son told his father, “Mom was scary angry about my tablet.” Perspective, I guess.)
4) There’s a lesson in this. As I mentioned, I am a learner. And I can’t just sit back and go through a bunch of crap for the sake of going through crap. I have to tell myself – and I believe it – that every harrowing experience allows me to learn more about myself.
5) I’m not failing; I’m learning. Do you see a theme here? I have started three businesses and one non-profit organization in my life. And I haven’t always been great at running them. But I didn’t fail when I closed or sold those businesses. I learned better ways to operate in the future. I make it a point to journal through tough experiences because then I can look back and see how much I’ve grown. I’ve got journals on my shelf that date back to some of my darkest days – 2015 through 2021 – and I’m grateful I kept them. So many people suggested burning them to symbolize letting go, but I don’t want to. At least, not yet. The words on those pages represent an emotional growth spurt, and I am grateful for the experiences.
As we know, it’s tough to think of these little tips when we are in the midst of struggle. But I invite you to try. Life is a rollercoaster. It has its ups and downs, but it’s your choice to scream or enjoy the ride. I, myself, usually scream and cry – not gonna lie. But in the end, I always walk out the other side more self-aware.
So what about you, Dear Reader? What kind of pep talk do you give yourself when life hands you lemons? And on that topic…who says you have to make lemonade with those lemons? After all, we are adults. You can use those to make whiskey sours.
As for your song, I’m leaving you with an oldie today by Darryl Worley. You probably don’t remember him from the early 2000s, but he was a bright light on the country music scene. Worley is a singer-songwriter who rose to fame but released his last ‘real’ album in 2009. I say ‘real’ because he released another in 2019, but out of 15 songs, eight were previously released. Nonetheless, the song I leave you with is one that pretty much sums life up, if you ask me, and puts the finishing touches on today’s post.
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